I sucked so badly at busing tables, I can't even begin to tell you how bad it was. I am naturally a very clumsy sort of person, and I had come down with Fibromyalgia that year, so lifting heavy trays was not working out well. I think I just stopped showing up one day. I don't remember even giving notice that it would be my last day.
Full circle, this past Sunday, Easter, my mom and my brother and I dined at the elegant Safety Harbor Resort and Spa. My mom had been itching to eat there for years, and I always talked her out of it because of the heinous prices there. This year she wouldn't be talked out of it, so she treated my brother and I to brunch. It was the best meal I have ever had. I mean, eggs benedict, lobster macaroni and cheese, flounder stuffed with crab mean, shrimp, and an entire room (which I shouldn't have entered) for the desserts. It was the kind of restaurant where, if someone leaves their napkin on the table when they get up for a minute, a waitress hurries over and folds their napkin up. I've seen that done maybe one other time at an expensive restaurant when my dad married his current wife.
This Easter we had no bickering. My mom behaved and we didn't even have to ask to change tables because we were not in a good enough seat *(this is what usually happens). When the waitress started pouring Mimosa I told her my mom and brother don't drink. I tried mine, hated it, as I hate alcohol pretty much all the time, and asked them to take it back because I didn't want my brother or my mom to have to see it siting there. I can't tell you how grateful I am that the two of them are sober. My mom has been for about 14 years. My brother, about 5 or 6 weeks. I thought he was going to die the way he was headed before he went back to living in a halfway house and going to AA meetings.
He told me I should come to a meeting sometime to see what they're like, and I said I would do that to show him some support.
Today, I don't have a mom who is hanging at the local bar with the kids home alone and me left to deal with them. Today, I have a car. I have a job I do well most of the time. I have lived at a pretty steady pace the past few years. I know how to take care of myself. I eat. I eat too much, but I'm not starving myself. Things are a lot different now than they were 20 years ago.